Stop Shrinking

Maybe about two months ago at work a client called and I connected them with our intake specialist to have an initial conversation. About 10 minutes later, our intake specialist came to me and said the client wanted to talk to me. I was surprised because I have nothing to do with the intake process besides taking the message. I spoke to the client, but in this moment, I was struck that I had started to believe that I wasn’t qualified to talk to a client.

See, I had started to believe the lies of those around me. At my 9-5, one of my responsibilities is to answer the phone. It’s not complicated, mostly just taking messages or directing the caller to the correct person, but it’s still stressful due to the nature of my job. People call in distressed, unstable at times; every time I answer the phone I have no idea who will be on the other end. But some of my colleagues treat it as a menial task. I am more than qualified for the position that I hold and I know this. But so many times in life, we short change ourselves and believe that we are inadequate.

This incident at work stuck with me because believing that I am less than or only that is unacceptable. For women especially, we will quantify ourselves with I’m only a stay at home or I only did this today. We must stop selling ourselves short to make those around us feel better or to feel as though we’re not bragging. We have a right to boast about our accomplishments, because if we don’t who will?

At work my job is important because I am the gate-keeper for the calls and entry to the office. My job is important because I am part of a team and all the members of a team make a difference. My job is important because I’m important and I matter. We are so much more than the titles we hold.  I’m going to leave you with one of my favorite poems by Marianne Willamson:

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.


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